Breaking Free from Self-Doubt: My Path to Consistency and Building Confidence
- Tiffany Ware
- Jan 30
- 3 min read
It’s been quite some time since I’ve shared a blog post.
To be honest, 2024 hit me hard. I started the year full of ideas for my business—quarterly topics broken down into subtopics for each month. My plan was to write a blog post about each subject, record a YouTube video, and host a live discussion to dive deeper into the content. I started strong, but before long, self-doubt and fear of how others would perceive me pushed me back into my shell.
Writing has always been my strength. Ever since I was a child, it’s been a natural gift. Writing blog posts wasn’t the challenge for me; being seen, heard, and judged by others was the real hurdle.
For example, my first topic of the year was about being a product junkie, a common issue many people face when it comes to hair care. I recorded a YouTube video about it, and while I was proud to share my knowledge, someone commented on how I talked with my hands and glanced down at my notes. Talking with my hands is just who I am—it’s natural for me—but that comment hit hard because I was already nervous about putting myself out there. I started to wonder: Did I seem unconfident? If I don’t look confident, will people even believe what I have to share? Then came the live discussion. No one joined—just me, talking to myself 😅. I’ve never been the “go live” type. I’ve always felt vulnerable knowing how judgmental people can be. The thought of being screen-recorded and talked about negatively made me want to crawl back into my comfort zone. Honestly, some people can get on live and carry a conversation like pros, even with no viewers. That’s not me… yet.
All of this doubt snowballed into a storm of maybes.
Maybe no one cares about what I have to say.
Maybe I’m not cut out for this.
Maybe I should leave this to the people who seem so confident and comfortable on social media.
The doubts didn’t stop there. I questioned whether anyone would even want to read my blog posts. Do people even read blogs anymore, or is everyone just looking for quick fixes on social media? Would I ever have the SEO reach to get my posts in front of a wider audience? I couldn’t stop second-guessing myself.
It became a cycle of excitement and exhaustion. I’d feel inspired to share my message, only to become overwhelmed by the fear of criticism and opposing opinions. I kept asking myself: Does any of this even matter in the grand scheme of things?
But after hours of meditation, prayer, and soul-searching, I finally came to a realization: What I’m doing matters. My work, my message, and my passion are making an impact. Even if it’s just one person affected, that’s enough! My daily prayer has always been for my life to positively impact those around me. I’ve realized that sharing my knowledge and talents isn’t just about me—it’s about creating opportunities and empowering others to learn, grow, and thrive.
My ancestors didn’t hold back. They used their voices, their knowledge, and their presence to make lasting changes, with far fewer resources than I have today. If they could do it, how dare I silence myself? How dare I hide my gifts and tuck them away in a box, thinking they’re not enough? This is my purpose! Divine alignment has placed me here for a reason and I have to take up space. I am confident that my journey doesn’t have to be perfect—it just has to BE AUTHENTIC.
I’m picking up where I left off in 2024 because those topics are still important, and I’m committed to consistency. My work will leave a legacy, whether through written words or videos, and I’m confident in the value it brings. To anyone reading this: thank you for being here. Your support is everything to me. If this message resonates with you, let’s stay connected. Subscribe to my YouTube channel below, and join me as I continue this journey of growth, authenticity, and empowerment. Let’s make 2025 and beyond our time to show up unapologetically authentic and confident!
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